10 Golden Rules of Child Development

10 Golden Rules of Child Development
1-The most important part of education is your own behavior: Never think that you are educating your child only when you talk to him, teach him or tell him to do something. You help your child grow up in every moment of your life, even when you are not at home. the way you dress or talk to people, the way you show happiness or sadness, the way you treat friends or enemies, the way you smile or read the newspaper; All these are important in raising a child. They notice the smallest difference in your mood. They catch every change in your thoughts, even if you are not aware of it.
2-Education requires a clear and genuine but serious tone: these three qualities are indispensable to the reality of life. Serious doesn’t mean you’re sorry. Be genuine, let your mood match the moment and the reality of what’s going on in your family.
3-Every parent needs to understand exactly what they want to see in their child: As a parent, be clear about your own desires. Think hard; eventually you will be able to see your own mistakes. Don’t let this discourage you; There are many right paths ahead of you that you can follow.
4-You need to know your child well: Where is he now? With whom, what is he doing? Of course, you should give your child as much freedom as possible. Your child needs to be exposed to different perspectives, not just yours. You need to help your child recognize the good and the bad in people and events. And this natural process cannot occur in a sheltered area.
5-The key to education is to be organized: Education does not forgive small mistakes. Education also cannot afford to deal with matters with indifference. Small details are in every moment of life, every day, every hour; It is these little details that complete life. Education requires a wise use of time rather than an abundance of time.
6-Do not try to help forcefully; but be happy to help: Parental help should not be forced, boring or frustrating. Sometimes your child needs a little push; so that they can learn to overcome difficulties and solve more complex problems on their own. Always try to see how your child is doing. Never let them be completely lost, confused, helpless. Sometimes your child needs your attention; But more importantly, your trust in him.
7-Never reward or punish him for his results: Applying a system of recognition or punishment is not as helpful as it seems when it comes to getting work done. What makes your child happy is having a problem and being able to solve it on his own. Your acknowledgment of his prowess, resourcefulness, and methods is the best reward you can give. However, care must be taken not to overuse praise. You should not praise your child in front of his friends. Moreover, you should not talk about punishment or a bad job in front of other people. The main thing at stake is getting the job done and doing his best.
8-A child cannot learn to love others without knowing their own worth: to love, to know love and to be happy; all this means respecting yourself and knowing your self-worth.
9-Never sacrifice yourself for a child: We often hear parents complain. “We give our children everything we have. We sacrifice everything, including our own happiness.” That’s the worst thing to do to a child, a lousy gift. If your goal is to poison your child, you can offer him a drop of your own happiness. It will work.
10-One cannot teach a child how to be happy; but one can educate the child in a way that makes him happy: A great quote from the great pedagogue: “Love is the greatest feeling; it works wonders, it creates new people and the greatest human values.”